Some teens skip Covid-19 vaccines, with deadly results
“I would send her articles. I would send her studies. I would send her whatever I thought might either scare her enough about Covid to get the vaccine or allay her concerns enough about the vaccine,” said Lee Stonum, 41, a public defender in Orange County, California. His mother, who lives in Cleveland, also sent emails to her granddaughter urging her to get the shots.
“She was very skilled at blowing it off,” Stonum said of his only child. “It was constantly, ‘OK, I’ll think about it.’ It was never an outright ‘no.’ “
Tyler Gilreath, 20, resisted the constant nagging and cajoling of his mother, Tamra Demello, to get the Covid-19 vaccine.
“He was one of those kids who had to make every mistake himself, because he always knew best,” said Demello, 60, of Apex, North Carolina. “The more a mother’s lips move, the less the ears on their male children open.”
Both young people recently died of Covid-19 — Kennedy Stonum on February 11, Gilreath in September. The vaccines had been available to them for months before their deaths.
Parents of teenagers and young adults are familiar with this tug of war: Their kids, soon to be full-fledged adults, resist parental input and think they know what is right. They learn about Covid-19 from friends and posts on social media platforms, such as Instagram and TikTok — not always the most accurate sources.
Parents may have enough leverage to compel their children to get vaccinated.
“Take their cell phone away. It would be three hours before they were lining up at the clinic,” Stonum said.
A feeling of youthful invincibility
That is in part due to a feeling of youthful invincibility, amplified because the disease is far less deadly among young people than older Americans.
Teen vaccine resistance is also hardened by a stream of social media posts, confusing and shifting recommendations from public health officials, and a youthful skepticism of authority, experts say.
Kennedy Stonum “spent a lot of time on TikTok and on social media, and I think she was picking up some misinformation there,” said Lee Stonum, sitting on the back patio of his home on a warm, brilliantly sunny day in late February.
She was also hearing from her peers that the vaccines could cause sterility, Stonum said. “Her biggest stated reason for not wanting to do it was that we didn’t know what the long-term impact on fertility was,” he said.
Gilreath was wary of the new vaccines, particularly the potential impact on his heart, Demello said. “He did a lot of research — a lot of times more than I did,” she said. But he also listened to “a lot of the conspiracy stuff,” she said, and he had that youthful sense of immortality, telling her: ‘ ‘If I get sick, I’ll only get sick for a couple of days, and I’ll get over it. I’m healthy.’ “
Many adolescents and 20-somethings also don’t believe Covid-19 can hurt them because they think ” ‘I’m young, I’m healthy, and I don’t see why I need to be concerned about this,’ ” Limaye said.
‘There’s a percentage of kids who get very sick’
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